How to Find the Perfect Home With Your Spouse
Buying a home with your spouse should be a milestone that two of you will remember for years to come. From walking into the kitchen where you both can picture yourself making breakfast to finding the ideal backyard where you’ll unwind after a busy day, and being completely blown away with all of the features that fulfill both of your hearts. That’s what homebuying entails! Doesn’t sound like the experience you’re having? Of course, it doesn’t. Home buying is complicated and when you throw two distinct opinions into the mix, you’re bound to run into some trouble, rather disagreements.
But let’s not think of these disagreements as a bad thing. Instead, see them as an opportunity. You both want different things in a home. Now it’s time to find a balance.
If you and your spouse are coming into some difficulty finding a home that you both love, read ahead.
Create Two Separate ‘Must-Have’ Lists
Writing down your wants in a home is an activity that every couple should do. But they should do so separately. The reason? If you attempt to write the list together, you might begin to shut down each other’s ideas. This will lead one person to begin feeling undermined. Think of it this way, you came together as two separate people with distinct backgrounds. What you want in a home is going to be based on your experiences and visions of what your forever home would look like.
Once you make your separate lists, come together as one and share them. Remember to be respectful of what your spouse wants. Most importantly, listen to them. Even if they’re asking for something as outrageous as a closet the size of a bedroom, hear them out. Don’t make them feel like less for wanting something that you see as impractical. Instead, find the root of their desires. Perhaps they grew up in a home where they shared everything with their siblings. Now they can’t wait to have their space to call their own! And surely they want to share it with you but they also know that this is going to the home where they rest their heads at the end of a hectic day.
Identify the Similarities
As unique as the two of you may be, you will certainly find similarities. For example, the two of you may agree that a four bedroom is ideal and you both desire to live on the east side of town. Find compromise wherever possible. But be sure to find similarities in the stuff that truly matters. You can settle disputes of bedroom decor later.
Set Aside Your Emotions
Buying a home is all about emotions. But there’s one area where the two of you should absolutely act with reason and hardness and that’s when it comes to your budget. You’re buying a home to have a better life not to suffer and wind-up in a worse than before situation. It’s easy to get swept away with those pictures of million dollar homes that you see on HGTV but be reasonable with your budget and act with purpose. Even if it means finding a home that’s a couple thousand less than you anticipated, you will be in a much better position in the end!
Find Your Forever Home With Zia Homes
Now that you have a couple of helpful pointers, it’s time to put them to test. We’ll help you and your spouse find a home that meets both your desires! Learn more about what Zia Homes has to offer.
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